a real book!)
Nicole Cottrell from Modern Reject recently wrote a guest post at Sammy Adebiyi's blog asking if wives should stay hot for their husbands. Here's an excerpt:
Your husband deserves to come home each day (or see you come home each day, if you happen to work, as well) to the beautiful, lovely, admirable, and even sexy woman that he married.
Yet, this often isn't the case because for some strange reason, many women have fallen victim to the lie that marriage somehow ends your responsibility to remain attractive. Yes, I said responsibility. I know some people might not like that word, but it is fitting. I believe a wife has a duty to look hot. Yup, a duty for hotness.
Let's be honest too ladies, if our husbands hung out in sweats all day, rarely showered, and didn’t care if he had shaved or not, I doubt we would be too excited. Same goes for us.
If you got all dolled up before marriage and then stopped after marriage, well, my dear, that is false advertising.
Marriage is not an excuse to “get comfortable” or “let yourself go.” If ever there were a time to exert a little effort into looking good, it is in our marriages. In a culture racked with divorce, marriages are fragile enough.
We might forget it and hate to say it, but attraction is a key component to a healthy marriage and sex life.Now even though I don't always agree with Cottrell, normally we're pretty much on the same page on many issues. But for this one the only thing I have to say is, "WTF????????"
Even though Cottrell makes it clear that she's not suggesting women starve themselves, this kind of thinking basically suggests that the sole purpose of a wife is the make the husband a happy man, both in the kitchen and in the bedroom. It's this mentality that suggests that women are no more than arm candy for men. This is why so many people are leaving the Church; this kind of message is saying that there are second-class citizens in the Kingdom of God.
I honestly don't care if my wife (or husband) greets me at the door every day in sweat pants and frizzy hair. In fact, if my spouse has had a rough day working around the house, I would be glad to help him/her out. That's what a marriage is supposed to be: a partnership. Mutual submission. Ephesians 5:21, anyone?
So women, don't feel like you have to look like Meghan Fox 24/7 to keep your man happy. You're fine just the way you are, and don't let anyone in the Church tell you otherwise!
(Okay, that's enough ranting for now. Who wants donuts?)